I have written before about making links and how important it is to understand how links work in our emotional life.  See the link below.

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I  have had a number of conversations recently with patents who wish to keep their history in discrete boxes.Each box is important-or not- in its own right. So a divorce may be an important box. The birth of a child another important box. A new job will be another interesting box. And so on. Each box has its place in the scheme of a person’s life. Some boxes are looked in more often than others.Some are accessible, Some are marked “Do Not disturb”. My patients will spend a session looking at one box, talking about its contents and then put it back where they found it. Next week they might open another box. And so on. In this way they persuade themselves they…